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The Negative Love Syndrome and the Quadrinity Model©
A Path to Personal Freedom and Love
by Bob Hoffman
Four Aspects of Self: The Quadrinity
To
help understand the great complexity of the self, its development
and the problems resulting from the adoption of Negative
Love, I use three distinct combinations of aspects of the
self: the Duality, the Trinity, and the Quadrinity.
The Duality consists
of the two negatively programmed mental aspects of self:
the emotional self and the intellectual self are combined
as one entity, yet they can also be visualized separately.
I
refer to the three aspects of our minds as the Trinity:
the emotional self, the intellectual self, and the spiritual
self. They can be visualized as one entity although each
aspect can be visualized separately.
The Quadrinity is
a framework, a model for understanding ourselves and our
behavior that includes all four aspects of self: body, emotions,
intellect and spiritual self. The Quadrinity is our whole,
integrated, balanced Self, embodying all four aspects. These
four aspects are interrelated and form a complex interactive
system.
The
body is a biological system. The body, including the brain,
is the physical dwelling place for the three other aspects
of the self. Through the body we act out and manifest the
feelings of the emotional self, the thoughts of the intellect,
and the presence of the spiritual self.
The following
are characteristics of the PHYSICAL SELF:
- Composed
of the elements of the physical universe and subject
to its physical laws and conditions
- Carrier
of genetic information
- Interconnected
with the mind through neurological and biochemical feedback
- Functions
in the domains of sensing, action, and communication.
- Behaviorally
expresses thoughts and feelings
- Repository
for the memories of all experiences, including thoughts
and feelings
- Manifests
physical symptoms of unresolved conflicts between intellect
and emotions
The EMOTIONAL SELF expresses the full range of feelings
and emotions through the physical body. It is where
Negative Love patterns first show up developmentally
and, along with the Intellect and Physical Body, where
these patterns exist. The NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL SELF is
defined as “childish”. It has no sense of
time or space. It regresses readily.
+ (positive characteristics)
- Relational
- Curious
- Playful
- Joyful
- Sense
of Humor
- Spontaneous
- Adventurous
- Appreciative
of self/others
- Feels
grief/sadness
– (negative patterns)
- Defensive
- Rebellious
- Shame/guilt
- Anger/anxiety
- Rigid
- Fearful/Cautious
- Unlovable/unworthy
- Depressed
The INTELLECTUAL SELF IS our logical and problem solving thought-processor.
It includes what and how we think, our world-views, values,
and beliefs. Along with the Emotional Self and Physical
Body, the Intellectual Self is where negative love patterns
exist. Should’s, shouldn’ts, do’s, don’ts,
can’ts, etc., exist in the Intellect and can be either
positive or negative. They are negative when they are compulsive.
The following are some qualities of the Intellectual Self:
 +
(positive)
- Rational
- Understanding
- Knowledgeable
- Creative
- Logical/Synthesizes
- Analyzes
- Evaluates
–(negative)
- Critical
- Rationalize
- Judgmental
- Defensive
- Argumentative/deceptive
- Justifies
- Admonishes
The
SPIRITUAL SELF is the pure non-programmed, non-mediated
aspect of self that is positive, pure, open presence, yearning
to embody our larger, true nature in this world.
Our SPIRITUAL SELF is resonating in harmony with the Universe.
- Intuitive,
responsive and unconditioned, connected
- Wise,
ever unfolding and growing, moving towards wholeness
- Intentional,
courageous
- Creative
- All-loving,
compassionate, and forgiving
- Peaceful,
grounded and centered
- Aspires
to goodness, truth and justice
- Mediator,
Integrator
- Integrity,
completely ethical (knows right from wrong)
- Source
of Strength
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