Principles of the Hoffman Process
We all need a little help sometimes, and the first step is admitting it. Whether it’s dealing with anxiety/ depression, or just feeling that you’re not getting the best out of your life, the Hoffman Process provides you with resolution, spiritual healing, personal development and the self esteem to face life’s challenges more effectively.
It is now an established fact that our early childhood conditioning has a profound effect on our lives, shaping our self–image, attitudes, moods and behaviour. As children we need a relatively consistent flow of unconditional love from our caregivers in order to recognize that we are lovable. Children take on the ‘blame’ themselves if there is a breakdown in this flow and will unconsciously abandon the core experience that they are innately ‘lovable’. The experience of being ‘un-lovable’ is an intolerable reality for a child. So we develop survival strategies and ways of being as a result of this conditioning. The HP helps us understand that our unwanted behaviors and emotional triggers result from particular failings from our caregivers. However, it is not about ‘blaming’ them but to be able to take responsibility for the way we approach and respond to ourselves and our relationships with others in life.
“Other people will provide triggers for us, our emotional reactions are our responsibility to deal with” ( Volker Krohn, MA Psych., Process Director)
Through this journey of self-discovery and personal development, the ultimate aim of the Hoffman Process is to help everyone reach forgiveness and acceptance for themselves and others. This allows for a more compassionate approach to Self, personal relationships, parenting and family life. With compassion comes a higher level of emotional resilience to deal with break- downs, criticisms and conflicts.
“Four studies have demonstrated that the Hoffman
Process definitely works for anxiety and depression.”
Oliver James – Psychologist & Author of ‘Affluenza’
Hoffman participants find they’re able to communicate more effectively and be more authentic to their true self, at work and at home. Due to its intensive nature the Process is perfectly suited to those with demanding lives, busy schedules or who just feel stuck.
The Hoffman Process uses a unique combination of proven techniques, including guided visualization, journaling and expressive work. During the intensive week long residential course, you are led by trained professional psychotherapists through a carefully structured sequence of powerful experiences that enable you to discover, isolate, and resolve negative conditioning and recover your natural self-confidence and self-esteem.
The Negative Love Syndrome
All children want love and attention from their parents. Children believe implicitly that mother and father know what they are doing at all times. For a child, imitating a parent’s behaviors, moods and attitudes — literally becoming like them, seems the best way to earn a parent’s love and attention. When a child unconsciously takes on his or her parents’ negative behaviors in an attempt to be loved by them, he or she becomes a victim of the Negative Love Syndrome.
None of us were immune to the Negative Love Syndrome. Its only product is inauthentic, compulsive, self-sabotaging behavior. The Negative Love Syndrome puts us at war with ourselves and others. It also disconnects us from our own true source of power, our inner spiritual selves, which may appear only at rare moments or in short flashes of insight.
Bob Hoffman discovered this dynamic in human relationships and called it the Negative Love Syndrome. He also revealed how to unleash the power of the Spiritual Self so that we can heal ourselves. To learn more about Bob’s work, the theoretical underpinnings of the Hoffman Process, and whether or not this work is right for you, please read “The Negative Love Syndrome and the Quadrinity Model© A Path to Personal Freedom and Love” by Bob Hoffman.