When I came to the Hoffman process, I was not entirely sure that it was the right course for me. I was having problems with my relationships and whilst I was not depressed, I was not experiencing joy.
I had a very pleasant childhood and loved my parents deeply, so, was unsure how events in my childhood could have negatively impacted me to end up in my situating.
“But what Hoffman discovered for me was that both consciously and unconsciously, I have felt a need to repay Mum and Dad for my childhood and that has led to deep issues around my inadequacy as a human being.
This unconscious feeling of inadequacy has lead me to adopt a range of negative behaviours that have negatively impaired myself and my relationships throughout my life.
The Process has not only identified this negative pattern, it has equipped me with tools to help break the cycle. Whilst at the same time, freed me from the enormous guilt I have carried for the death of my brother.
I am excited to move into the next step of my life, being guided by my essence and living my life with a full loving heart.”
“The process has brought me to a place of understanding and certainty about who I am and how to move forward in my life. My life now has the opportunity to flourish beyond my previously confined and contaminated thinking.
My love for myself is something I thought was unattainable. But here I am, loving myself. And Ready to let that flow out to all my relationships. I will be forever grateful to the process.”
“It’s a process of searching for love, compassion and your own soul. I highly recommend it to anyone who feels stressed, anxious, unhappy or simply just wants to find out the meaning of life. Through physical action, mindful thinking, meditation, theory learning, emotional touching, I understand how my body and soul come together, serving me a happy life. I’ve taken away what I learned here, to apply in my daily life, to become a better daughter, mum, partner, leader and stranger. I believe anyone who is interested in relationships with the world would benefit from it.”
“Participating in the process felt like throwing out an old picture of my life – dark, grey, angry, story, and being presented with a clean canvas, on which to start painting a fresh picture of my life. It has been very liberating.”
The Hoffman Process is a brief, highly intensive and residential group psychotherapy of eight days duration it compromises tightly integrated mainstream interventions drawn from psycho-education, prolonged imaginal exposure and somatic work. Based on my own direct participation, it focuses on dismantling developmental defenses, reducing shame and self-loathing, and uniquely has a highly compelling vision of unconditional self-love. The Process is appropriate for adults with anxiety, depression and dysthymia of moderate severity. Consistent with other effective approaches it doesn’t make false claims of cures.
However, engagement and hope are especially promoted because it compresses the work of many individual consultations into one eight day period. The practitioners are well qualified and experienced and follow highly ethical and documented processes. Screening and approval is routinely required of practitioners of people already in mental health care. The cost is equivalent to around 20 standard consultations which represents good value given that few people drop out prior to completion. Follow-up sessions are available in person and by phone where people do not already have their own practitioner.
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It was a very emotional time for us and at times challenging to have each other present when confronting our past, but it also meant that we were each others witnesses and could truly understand the new path we had chosen. I will never forget a spontaneous moment at the end of the Process during a celebration when our course mates playfully showered us with droplets of water from a fountain while myself and my husband improvised our new vows to each other. I have to say it was even more meaningful to me than on my wedding day because it was only after the Hoffman Process that we were able to connect from a place of absolute truth and authenticity.
All started in 1998, I was 46 years old, right age to look in the mirror and revisited my life. I was already divorced one time, my second marriage was shaking and the relationship with my already grown-up children was not really healthy either; without considering after few months’ time I would had become grandfather for the first time. Cornered as I was I had to make a choice, either becoming a victim or more responsible. I chose the latest and the Hoffman Quadrinity Process was the best option I thought I had. I was right, because that was the start of a new life. The process was not the miracle, but what I got from it helped me to create my miracle. I changed my life! Yes it takes time to process all the learning, the insights. It takes endurance, hard work because at the end is not about what happen in life, but what we do with what is happening. The worst feeling is not to know what to do, the feeling of being prisoner in my own brain. Well, that is what the Hoffman Process gave me, the key to open the cage. Sometimes it was scarring out of the cage, but I had a new awareness, a new strength inside, a big hope, and with trust, courage and the help of God I changed my life. Since I started my new profession as Counsellor, I have been referring clients to the Hoffman Process in a regular basis because I believe it makes a difference.
Although I had a successful career and a beautiful family, there was something in me telling me that there had to be more to life, so I signed up for the Hoffman Quadrinity Process (HQP) on trust – and have never looked back.
The HQP has helped me in my career as a Manager, setting values for the company, visioning, family, balancing business life with family, health, and my purpose in Life…
Most business leader’s now understand the importance of EQ (Emotional Intelligence) at work. Leaders cannot build high performance teams without understanding empathy and being able to bond with others. We cannot work effectively without clarity of purpose and connection with our motivations. ‘Inspiring others’ seems false to me, until we can tap into our own vision and energy. HQP has given me the understanding of self and others that allows me to deliver powerful results for Nokia. It has also helped me to manage conflicting pressures because I am much clearer about my priorities and willing and able to take care of my needs because if I do not, I will be of no use either at home or at work.
As you know I attended the Hoffman course in April 2000 in Melbourne. The experience was for me a very positive one. I am writhing this letter to share may experiences in order that you might, in turn, share them with others who are considering attending and who, like me, may know little of what to expect.
I signed up for the Hoffman course by my wife following a motorcycle crash in March, the latest in a long line of illnesses, which formed a pattern in my life. Beyond the limited feedback from friends who had previously attended, I knew little about the Hoffman Process and was not at all convinced that this was a commitment of time I could afford.
Today, eight months after the course, I can confidently say that for the Hoffman course was one of the most important learning experiences of my life. It helped me to achieve substantially greater self-knowledge and personal insight; to recognise and change behavioural patterns, which I was not fully conscious of; and to enhance my confidence in my ability to use the tools learned in the course to make continuing changes going forward.
While the course is intense and demands full commitment from each participant to realise the benefits – the results for me have clearly justified the investment. If you are on a person quest for greater insight and self knowledge, and if you are willing to embark on an accelerated pace of change, it is likely that the Hoffman Process will prove to be of substantial value to you.
Volker keep up the good work!
The Hoffman Process was and continues to be a critical dimension of my development on a personal and professional level. The Process supported my inquiry into how I can be more effective and have a bigger impact as a leader. Through the process I was able to clearly see how some of my behavioural patterns were undermining my interest to support individuals and teams to achieve their objectives.
I continue to use the insights and tools from The Process on a regular basis and believe that they provide me greater clarity of purpose, ability to motivate others and deliver results without sacrificing my core principles.
“I feel that truly, doing the process is one of the most valuable thing I have ever done for myself in my whole life.”
When my husband said that he wanted to go on the Hoffman Process and asked me to accompany him, I didn’t feel like I needed it in the least.
I had a successful career, happy kids, a great relationship with my parents, and he was the one with the major problems. Or so I thought!
Well I was in for a real eye opener. The 8 days that I was on the Process turned out to be the most important time of my life. I learned self-awareness, how to take responsibility for my actions and my part in our relationship, what my vicious cycles were and how sneaky my bad habits were. Most importantly, the Process also made me realise that I was living a life that others expected of me, and not the life that I really wanted for myself!
I am very thankful that I got the chance to do the Hoffman Process with my husband Mark. Through seeing what his journey was like, I had a deep respect for his commitment to change. When I saw how others perceived his strengths and gifts, it also made me appreciate those qualities I had sometimes taken for granted.
I had heard about the Hoffman Process for years, mainly from two wealthy and successful businessmen who both told me, when I’d ask about it, “Just go.” In the summer of 1996, I was travelling around Australia for 3 months and saw an ad by the Hoffman centre, and thought, “well, just go.” So I did.
It’s now 17 years later. Looking back, I can see what I learned: Emotional Intelligence.
I found out that to experience the best in life—to feel a sense of well-being, to feel happy, and on purpose—a human being has to have access to their full spectrum of emotion. Even the crappy ones, like sorrow and horror and rage, If some of ones emotional spectrum can’t be expressed, then there will be a glitch in the fabric of life, and that glitch will show up in all sorts of tweaked behavior, repeatedly, until we learn how to experience those missing emotional expressions.
For me, prior to the Hoffman week, the one missing emotion was anger. In situations where the appropriate emotion should’ve been anger, I felt collapse and hopelessness instead. That all changed from that weeklong intensive. The really interesting thing for me is that my improved emotional intelligence got better and better over the following years. I never did an ounce of the homework we were given after the class (whoops!), and for a while, I felt guilty about that. But then I realized I had gotten the transmission: I had somehow turned on some new insight in my brain and nervous system, enough to figure out how have access to the full spectrum of emotions in life.
Emotional intelligence changes everything. It took me from being reactive and ineffective to being present and impactful, especially in those situations where others are falling apart or going into shock. For me, it becomes the only way to live. Thanks for that week.
My professional strength as a leader only blossomed after I completed the Hoffman Process in 2001, allowing me to take on roles effortlessly that previously intimidated me. Not a lack of intelligence or skills, just unresolved emotional baggage that corrupted every relationship at work, play and with family.
I have since realised that release of my AUTHENTIC LEADERSHIP required strong development of and connections between one’s intellect – and most importantly one’s emotions. Greater control of reactivity and ego – with wisdom – are the characteristics of the best leaders. This requires processing of our “deep emotional reactivity from stuff” that we all carry from our childhood.
There is probably no better value approach to clear the decks for authentic leadership than the Hoffman Process. Skills development is trivial, shallow and unsustainable in comparison. “An unprocessed life is not worth living” could aptly be re-written as “an unprocessed life (with unresolved stuff causing damaging reactivity) is the major barrier to true leadership.” Anyone finding blocks in their leadership journey should consider the Hoffman Process as a powerful way to get to the root causes that undermine us daily.
Once they are cleared, then we become the true leaders we can best be. Love and Light!” my already grown-up children was not really healthy either; without considering after few months’ time I would had become grandfather for the first time. Cornered as I was I had to make a choice, either becoming a victim or more responsible. I chose the latest and the Hoffman Quadrinity Process was the best option I thought I had. I was right, because that was the start of a new life. The process was not the miracle, but what I got from it helped me to create my miracle. I changed my life! Yes it takes time to process all the learning, the insights. It takes endurance, hard work because at the end is not about what happen in life, but what we do with what is happening. The worst feeling is not to know what to do, the feeling of being prisoner in my own brain. Well, that is what the Hoffman Process gave me, the key to open the cage. Sometimes it was scarring out of the cage, but I had a new awareness, a new strength inside, a big hope, and with trust, courage and the help of God I changed my life. Since I started my new profession as Counsellor, I have been referring clients to the Hoffman Process in a regular basis because I believe it makes a difference.
“The Hoffman Process is one of the most powerful, positive, and influential experiences in my life. This unique program is deeply moving and emotionally healing. The vital issues of self and relationship with others are explored in a dynamic context that is sound in design and brilliantly facilitated. There is a reason this Process has been available for more than 45 years. It works immediately and delivers benefits for many years to come. I recommend the Process as a precious opportunity to make your life, and the lives of those you love, richer, deeper, and more fulfilling.
For a leader, self-understanding is essential to connect with, inspire, motivate, and effectively lead others. The Hoffman Process gives you rapid access to deep self-understanding while equipping you with the tools and compassion needed to help everyone perform better together.”
In most everyone’s life it’s important to take stock, to reflect on what’s important to them, and to evaluate what influences have led one to where they are. This helps clarify one’s direction, and gives hope that the future will perhaps be different than the past. That was the goal I had in mind for choosing the Hoffman Process.
I work around the work on mission critical assignments for the United Nations and Multi-national organisations. In that role, I need to hold a space of genuine regard for the wellbeing and emotional intelligence of the people who hire me to get a result in challenging circumstances.
To do that, I need to have the moral authority, and the courage, to hold difficult conversations; inquire into things left unsaid, build a new version of leadership, or how a team works and, ultimately, the results that group of people want to achieve.
I wholeheartedly recommend the work of the Hoffman process if you are someone who wants to feel more fully into who you are and what you are capable of being, not bound by how you think you should be, how society or your family condones your behaviour, but what’s real and right for you.
When you find that, as I did doing the Hoffman Process, you find a higher purpose to the work you do, the relationships that are important to you, and how you show up in the world. From there, anything is possible. Trust me, I know because I am living proof.
If you’ve been guided here to this page, and you are exploring this program for your life, that’s a good sign that there is a big part of you that is wanting and waiting to come into your life – more adaptable, more understanding, more compassionate, more loving, and with more life energy than you ever thought possible.
Just Do It.